Ban Bossy? Ban Overachiever

There is a part of every conversation I have with someone new that I dread. It goes a little something like this: “Tell me about yourself.” “Well, I recently graduated from Stanford.” One eyebrow raises. “Oh, what was your major?” “Do I look that young? Um, well, I graduated from law school . . . […]

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Sippin’ Tea

Not writin’. Not drawin’. Not readin’. Just sippin’ tea.

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my artist’s soul

I’m finally coming out of the depression that’s plagued me since before the new year. Finally. What felt so easy to write when down is hard now. I feel silly. I feel like who wants to read what I write. I feel a little list writing here. I’ve been blogging for almost seven years now. […]

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Who Do You Love?

I heard a story the other day that really made me think. A young child asked her mother who she loved more, the husband/father, or the children. The mother thought for a moment, and then answered, “Myself.” As mothers, it’s hard for us to say that we love ourselves more than our partners or our […]

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When Writing is Hard…but Drawing is So Easy

It’s been hard to write about life lately. I’m in a writing slump because my creative juices are getting taken up by my art. Art, for me, is like writing. I usually don’t know what is going to come onto the page until I start, whether that is with my computer keyboard or my pencil or […]

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New on CocoaMamas: Racial Microaggressions in Elementary School

Hi all — Have a new post up on CocoaMamas. Photo: Me! All rights reserved. Our school district has recently started a new task force looking at minority achievement. In such a resource rich district, but also with many social inequalities, its unsurprising but still really angering that we have disparities in the rate of […]

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How I Came to Believe in the Body of Christ

I’ve long been fascinated with the ability of people who’ve lost their sight to still get around in the world. How afraid I’d be in perpetual darkness, unable to even move from one spot. I get bumps and bruises while moving in my own house, a place that I know very well. So when I […]

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The Six Friends Every Depressed Person Needs

I’m just gonna jump right into this one before I forget: 1. The Please-Just-Listener (The PJL). The PJL does just that: listen. No more words than, “right,” “uh-hun,” and “okay.” The PJL validates your feelings by being non-judgmental and by not, under any circumstances, giving advice. Sometimes a depressed person needs to just talk and talk and […]

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On Going/Being Gray

“Most of us do not take these situations as teachings. We automatically hate them. We run like crazy. We use all kinds of ways to escape — all addictions stem from this moment when we meet our edge and we just can’t stand it. We feel we have to soften it, pad it with something, […]

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