Ban Bossy? Ban Overachiever

There is a part of every conversation I have with someone new that I dread. It goes a little something like this: “Tell me about yourself.” “Well, I recently graduated from Stanford.” One eyebrow raises. “Oh, what was your major?” “Do I look that young? Um, well, I graduated from law school . . . […]

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When Writing is Hard…but Drawing is So Easy

It’s been hard to write about life lately. I’m in a writing slump because my creative juices are getting taken up by my art. Art, for me, is like writing. I usually don’t know what is going to come onto the page until I start, whether that is with my computer keyboard or my pencil or […]

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How Being the Default Parent Is Your Fault

After venting about how I was coordinating some kid-based activity from 50 miles and 90 minutes away from the action, all while my spouse was zero miles and zero minutes away from the action, my co-worker sent me an article. It was like reading about my life. In her article, The Default Parent, M. Blazoned discussed […]

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On Pride

There are a lot of things I have to proud of. Degrees, kids, marriage, friends. I do those things well. But much of the time, I’m proud to get out of my bed in the morning and not get back into it until bedtime. I’m proud to take a shower and wash my face and […]

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The Long Drive Home

Sunsets. It’s one of the best parts of my day. Every day. Makes the long drive worth it. (And don’t judge me for taking this while I was driving. I know, I know.)

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NaBloPoMo – Day 2: Crunched

The theme for BlogHer’s October NaBloPoMo is “Crunch.” It’s quite fitting for me, because all I feel is crunched these days. crunch (verb):  crush (a hard or brittle foodstuff) with the teeth, making a loud but muffled grinding sound; synonyms: munch, chomp, bite into Yup, that’s how I feel. Bitten into. Chomped. Munched. Crunched.

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Humbled…and Tired

First, let me say how humbled I am that y’all are still reading. That I’m still getting emails from folks wanting to connect. That my stories and experiences are making a difference. I’m totally and completely humbled. Second, as you can imagine, I’m exhausted. Tired. Writing a dissertation in a year while nurturing a marriage […]

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Go shortay…it’s ya birthday…we gon party like its ya birthday

Well, it was my birthday. And it was fabulous. Baseball game with kids and fellow 30-something’s in the backyard. I was obviously the MVP — got on base at every at bat. Then followed by karaoke at what I thought was going to be a happening bar but what turned out to be a little […]

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I’m done with housework

There is no reason why I should ever do any housework. Once your children hit 8 and 6, and your husband is able-bodied, they become the housekeepers. So when I do ANYTHING, I expect my children to appreciate my efforts. In case they do not, I leave them a note.

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2014: I Think I Can

2014 will close a chapter in my life and open another. By the end of 2014, and at the age of 33, I will have been married for 9 years, have 3 children, have a JD/PhD from Stanford University. I know people think I’m nuts, but really it’s just that I don’t believe in limits. […]

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