You’re Always In My Head

I am not That mommy. I am not That mommy whose life revolves around her kids. I enjoy time to myself. Probably more than most moms. But this past week, I can’t get my kids off my mind. And with them on my mind, I can’t do anything else. The first week of August, I […]

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Moving to Cocoamamas

Did you know I had another blog, a mommy blog I founded in January? Well, I thought I could do both, keep up this blog and Cocoamamas, but it’s just too hard. So I’m permanently moving to just Cocoamamas.com. Please come join me over there – with six regular bloggers, all mamas of color, all […]

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summer mommyhood day 3: blah blah blah

Stop it. Put that down. Don’t touch that. Don’t put that in your mouth! What are you doing!? Come back here. Where are you going?? You know better. Just stand here. Don’t even think about moving. This was my morning, and the reason I don’t go grocery shopping with children. At least my two-year-old did […]

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Full-time summer mommyhood day 1: #epicfail

Today was the first day of our summer, the first day I was to care for my children all day without help. This will be the case all summer, as I do full-time mothering. Our babysitter will be caring for her own family during this summer, and we figured it just made more sense for […]

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beggars can’t be choosy (or dreamers)

I hate filling out financial aid forms. I hate feeling like I’m begging for money, having to justify why I need money to send my kids to preschool. I hate having to explain why I want this preschool, that’s more expensive, instead of that preschool, which is cheaper. I hate having to show all my […]

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The Finest Things

Sacrifice. Life requires so much of it, especially when you are married, or otherwise partnered. Especially when you have children. Things don’t go smoothly unless you are willing to sacrifice something, be it something you wanted to do, or be, or have. And even if you are used to sacrifice, even if it’s been drilled in you […]

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Mad Mommy: The What Ifs

(Cross Posted on CocoaMamas) She lost her babies because of a what if. Actually several what ifs. “I couldn’t see living the rest of my life worrying and wondering what had happened, or what if she hadn’t taken her medicine, or what if she relapsed,” said Ms. Baker, who has four children of her own. […]

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a different kind of mom

Am I a different kind of black folk? Am I a different kind of mom? Every day I go to pick up Ahmir at preschool, I ask him what he did and who he did it with. I’m interested in building his group of friends beyond those he sees every day to especially those he […]

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black child’s burden

So a few days ago, I went to pick up Big Boy from preschool. He’s one of four black children of 36 in the classroom. As I was leaving, one of the teachers told me that he and the other black children (she referred to them by name, not as “the other black kids”) had […]

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thinking of something to say

So as soon as I give into my pity party asking if readers were still there and reading, and I get good feedback, then I have writer’s block. I have a couple of things I could write about, like my efforts at non-hitting discipline, which I really want to talk about because it takes up […]

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