The Day of No Shame

(I usually don’t post two things in one day, but I forgot about putting this here.) #NoShameDay Before the day is over, I wanted to recommit myself to having zero shame about my mental health struggles. I have Biploar II disorder, which means less intense manic episodes than Bipolar I disorder, but often even deeper […]

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The Six Friends Every Depressed Person Needs

I’m just gonna jump right into this one before I forget: 1. The Please-Just-Listener (The PJL). The PJL does just that: listen. No more words than, “right,” “uh-hun,” and “okay.” The PJL validates your feelings by being non-judgmental and by not, under any circumstances, giving advice. Sometimes a depressed person needs to just talk and talk and […]

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On Going/Being Gray

“Most of us do not take these situations as teachings. We automatically hate them. We run like crazy. We use all kinds of ways to escape — all addictions stem from this moment when we meet our edge and we just can’t stand it. We feel we have to soften it, pad it with something, […]

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I thought it would be joy but it ended up as pain

Photo courtesy of Jalon Nichols on Flickr I thought today was going to be different. Technically, it wasn’t like yesterday. It was my official first day of telework. I never left my house. Never even took a shower. Grabbed my favorite yoga pants, a t-shirt, and a comfy sweatshirt, along with my favorite pair of socks. […]

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Remembering the Writer in Me: Depressed Edition

When I’m depressed, I often do (some of) my best work. Not creative work, but work work. Work that requires less mind and more brawn. If that exists on the computer. I write (and think, but more on that below) for a living. My ability to write well is key to my livelihood. If I couldn’t […]

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NaBloPoMo No Mo?

My November NaBloPoMo effort has been piss-poor lately. Why? Because I didn’t feel I had anything to blog about.  One of the goals of daily blogging is to create a habit of writing, every day, no matter what. It’s a trick that all productive writers know – it doesn’t matter if you don’t have anything to […]

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In the Darkness

I wrote this last year, right around this time. On this first full workday of Daylight Savings Time (or the end of it, I don’t know), I felt this downward pull/push. But I’m also mindful of the treasures and lessons in the darkness. I needed to read this again. Maybe you need it too.

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Who I Am Not

When I start to drift down, I tend to forget. I forget being happy. I forget that people love me. I forget that every down day doesn’t mean I’m entering a depression. Most of all, I forget who I am. I am a black woman with great hair 🙂 I am an awesome mother to […]

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On Pride

There are a lot of things I have to proud of. Degrees, kids, marriage, friends. I do those things well. But much of the time, I’m proud to get out of my bed in the morning and not get back into it until bedtime. I’m proud to take a shower and wash my face and […]

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