How Being the Default Parent Is Your Fault

After venting about how I was coordinating some kid-based activity from 50 miles and 90 minutes away from the action, all while my spouse was zero miles and zero minutes away from the action, my co-worker sent me an article. It was like reading about my life. In her article, The Default Parent, M. Blazoned discussed […]

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On Pride

There are a lot of things I have to proud of. Degrees, kids, marriage, friends. I do those things well. But much of the time, I’m proud to get out of my bed in the morning and not get back into it until bedtime. I’m proud to take a shower and wash my face and […]

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NaBloPoMo – October 5: Crunches

Note: I’m participating in BlogHer’s NaBloPoMo for October. Goal is to post every day this month. I’ve missed two days, but I’m getting back on track! There are two areas in my life where I have very little confidence.  This is surprising to many people, because I don’t come off as a person who suffers (much) from a […]

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Progress Report

Prayer works. I talked to God, I meditated in stillness, I listened for His still, small whisper. And He moved through me, and through the advice of others. During my ten days, I cancelled all kid’s evening activities going forward, and consolidated all our credit card debt with our credit union. Saving money + saving […]

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Day 122: XY

I thought I wasn’t going to find out the sex of the baby. First, I thought it might be exciting to not know. But then I remembered myself. It’s not that I don’t like surprises. It’s that I am pretty impatient and not knowing something I could know doesn’t make any sense to me. Then, […]

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Miss Communication

I don’t know when I became a direct person. Perhaps it was sometime in college when I came into my own power. When I stopped caring what people thought about me. When I got strong. Not that I wasn’t strong before. It was just hidden behind a lot of insecurity and uncertainty. But in college, […]

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p@ssy for sale

It seems like every other day people find a way to do something ignorant. Like go out of their way to make up ignorance, create it instead of just allowing it to come to fruition, actually sit down and allow several minds to think up ignorant things. And when I say ignorant, I mean in […]

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who’s pretty?

It is a fiction that a laissez-faire approach to markets create the results that we see in the world. An article on the front page of today’s New York Times talks about how despite the fact that Brazilians themselves see beauty in all shapes and colors, modeling scouts who send models to Europe continue to […]

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Chasing the Jones

This week, the NYTimes published an op-ed referencing a famous report: The Negro Family: The Case for National Action.In this 1965 report, Moynihan, the Asst. Sec’t of Labor, declares the deterioration of the black family as the main reason why blacks were and would perpetually be at the bottom of the indices for well-being in the country. […]

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Evaluating the Evaluations

It’s evaluation time. For instructors and TA’s, I mean. And mine came out just as I imagined, all over the board. Some students loved me, others hated me, and a few were in the middle. I got comments like “Gradmommy is the best TA I’ve had at Stanford so far!” and “Gradmommy was unnecessarily aggressive […]

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