It’s So Dark

I learned something new today. Apparently, I hate Standard Time. I’m not sure about everyone else, but I’d always thought I hated “Daylight Savings Time.” That unenviable morning in early November that gives us an extra hour of sleep but extra waking hours of darkness. But that moment is not when Daylight Savings Time begins. […]

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“It’s Not Fair:” A Working-Class Mama with Middle-Class Kids

“It’s not fair.” The first words out of my seven-year old’s mouth after leaving a birthday party turned barbecue at the home of one of her classmates. She had a great time, and her brother too as he tagged along for the party. I sort of knew what she meant when she said those words, […]

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My Latest on Blogher: Young Black Children and Suicide

The first time I thought about killing myself, I was eleven. I’d had some trauma in my life, unspeakable things that my tween self could not articulate. Pain that ran deep, seated into my soul. I could not get away from it. Image Credit: Sam D via Flickr At eleven, I didn’t make a plan; […]

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Before

There is nothing like being in the presence of those who knew you before. Before the husband, before the children, before the move. Before the JD, before the phd, before the dissertation. Before kindergarten, or first grade, or second grade, or third babies. Before losing baby teeth. Before you even remember you. When you are […]

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Liar Liar

My son has been identified as a liar in school. And a thief. And both were true. They were playing with, or doing a math lesson with, coins one day. The teacher said that he came up to her to show her his money – money that he had washed and made nice and pretty, […]

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What’s Going On

Wow, it’s been a minute since I’ve updated this blog. Not for lack of things going on, though. Probably the biggest issue with keeping it up is time, and since I’ve had a full-time job this summer, time has been at such a premium. This is the first full-time job I’ve had in four years, […]

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R.I.P. M.J.

“If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make a change.” As big of a Michael Jackson fan I am, I have never written about his death. It shocked me that I hadn’t, when I was searching back through my archives for something to repost for today, […]

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say it with your . . . mouth?

My children are super emotive with their bodies. They are very touchy-feely. They need to have their bodies close to yours to feel connected. They crave skin to skin contact, with everyone. It’s both endearing and annoying. It led to my son’s teachers thinking he needed therapy. It makes me want to scream sometimes. I […]

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i don’t live for my kids

A couple of days ago, when I started my 25 to 30 countdown, Lilian asked if having children has impacted my will to live. The most simple and direct answer is no. I don’t answer this question lightly; I’ve actually thought about it a lot. Since having children, a lot about how I live my […]

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Sing-a-long

You don’t know me if you don’t know I sing. Like, if you know me, but you didn’t know that singing is a major part of my life, then you really don’t know me. Honestly, to me it sounds really trite – I’m a “singer.” A “vocalist.” But I make music with my voice – […]

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