Who Do You Love?

I heard a story the other day that really made me think. A young child asked her mother who she loved more, the husband/father, or the children. The mother thought for a moment, and then answered, “Myself.” As mothers, it’s hard for us to say that we love ourselves more than our partners or our […]

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New on CocoaMamas: Racial Microaggressions in Elementary School

Hi all — Have a new post up on CocoaMamas. Photo: Me! All rights reserved. Our school district has recently started a new task force looking at minority achievement. In such a resource rich district, but also with many social inequalities, its unsurprising but still really angering that we have disparities in the rate of […]

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Success!!

My baby (that’s him over there!) pooped in the potty. It was like we’d won the lottery up in here. Then the big kids cried because he got candy and they didn’t.

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To My Black Children: We Are Fighting For You

I wrote this at the end of August, after the murder of Michael Brown. Still relevant now. To my Beautiful Black children, This week you returned back home from spending the summer with your grandparents. For eight weeks, you engaged in what so many of our people have done for generations: spent the summers unburdened […]

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How Being the Default Parent Is Your Fault

After venting about how I was coordinating some kid-based activity from 50 miles and 90 minutes away from the action, all while my spouse was zero miles and zero minutes away from the action, my co-worker sent me an article. It was like reading about my life. In her article, The Default Parent, M. Blazoned discussed […]

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Back to School

We’ve been a little late on the back to school…stuff. It’s so warm here most of the year that the kids haven’t needed “school clothes” because they were still in summer clothes. Then one day last week, it was suddenly fall. So I bought school clothes. It was like Christmas in here when the box […]

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On Pride

There are a lot of things I have to proud of. Degrees, kids, marriage, friends. I do those things well. But much of the time, I’m proud to get out of my bed in the morning and not get back into it until bedtime. I’m proud to take a shower and wash my face and […]

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the times you let your children down

I work crazy long hours. The hours aren’t actually crazy, but since my commute is 1.5 hours each way, it feels crazy. I see my children in the morning before they go to school (had to work my way into that flexibility) and then for an hour or so when I get home before they […]

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