I’m done with housework

There is no reason why I should ever do any housework. Once your children hit 8 and 6, and your husband is able-bodied, they become the housekeepers. So when I do ANYTHING, I expect my children to appreciate my efforts. In case they do not, I leave them a note.

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Progress Report

Prayer works. I talked to God, I meditated in stillness, I listened for His still, small whisper. And He moved through me, and through the advice of others. During my ten days, I cancelled all kid’s evening activities going forward, and consolidated all our credit card debt with our credit union. Saving money + saving […]

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The Kids Will Be All Right

The kids will be all right. The kids will be alright. The kids will be all right. I’m trying to convince myself of this sentence. This short sentence of five or six words, depending on how you spell “alright” (are they two different words/phrases ‘alright’ vs. ‘all right’?) It is these five or six words […]

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ABD #19: Daily Bread

Hi. It’s been a minute (well five days.) I really wanted this to be every day, not counting weekends, but that’s too much to expect of myself. So it will be regular, but not necessarily daily. And that’s okay (says the reformed perfectionist). The depression has lifted. Thank God. I don’t feel constantly pulled underwater […]

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ABD #10: I Did It

I did it. I stayed out of the bed all day. I worked from 9:15 – 11:15 am. I coded an interview. I’m ready to do the analytical write-up tomorrow. I walked home, turned on some music, and sang from 11:30 – 1:15 pm. I met with my son’s teacher from 1:30 – 2pm, rediscovered […]

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ABD Day #1: Got to Keep On Goin’ On

So I’ve got to keep on moving on This first day was more productive than I anticipated, despite some early challenges. Challenge #0 is every day’s challenge: The 17-month-old and his 6:30 a.m. wake-up poop. Challenge #1: I woke with a racing heart and upset stomach. That’s my version of anxiety. It’s physical and never-ending. […]

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Part of a Caring Community?

I am a member of several online parent communities. Every now and again, someone will post something like “Questionable caregiver at Dolores Park,” or “Nanny ignoring children at Bernal Library.” These posts invariably anger me. Here’s the last exchange I had on a list about this very annoying practice: The Post** My babysitter saw a nanny mistreating […]

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Champions of Freedom

This is an event I organized for my kids’ school…the posters went up on Tuesday, in honor of MLK Day that was celebrated on Monday. There are posters of the “champions of freedom” and “fact” posters that have facts about each of the people, color coded. Today, the kids did a “fact hunt” by choosing […]

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The Joy: Reflection on my Seventh Year as a Mother

Unsure of what the balance held I touched my belly overwhelmed By what I had been chosen to perform Seven years ago, I felt this way. Seven years ago the most amazing, sacred, and scary thing happened to me. But then an angel came one day Told me to kneel down and pray For unto […]

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Comfort for the Parents of the Innocent

by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. September 18, 1963, Sixteenth Street Baptist Church, Birmingham, Alabama [Delivered at funeral service for three of the children – Addie Mae Collins, Carol Denise McNair, and Cynthia Diane Wesley – killed in the bombing. A separate service was held for the fourth victim, Carole Robertson.] This afternoon we gather […]

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