What’s Wrong with Rachel Dolezal?

I’m just gonna compile my thoughts here given the conversations I’ve seen today. This will be updated as I think about it more. Initial thoughts: So I got thoughts on this NAACP lady. But this is a situation where I need more facts. But, to put it simply, I feel really uncomfortable with making people […]

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My Latest on Blogher: Young Black Children and Suicide

The first time I thought about killing myself, I was eleven. I’d had some trauma in my life, unspeakable things that my tween self could not articulate. Pain that ran deep, seated into my soul. I could not get away from it. Image Credit: Sam D via Flickr At eleven, I didn’t make a plan; […]

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Get Out My News Feed and I’m Gonna Keep Running My Mouth

I used to think that defriending folks on FB was a little wack. I thought that just because someone disagrees with me doesn’t mean that we can’t be “friends.” And anyway — I love a healthy debate. But now, I see that getting rid of folks who are consistently spraying toxic rhetoric in your news feed […]

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My Kids Are Lucky to Have Me: Part I

So many blog posts celebrate motherhood through odes to children.  I can understand why; I, too, think my children are pretty awesome.  I’m only a mother because of them, so I cannot help but feel grateful for their presence. I know I’m lucky to have them. But, quite honestly, I also think they are lucky […]

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Feeling Myself? My Daughter Says Maybe Not

Watching the Feeling Myself video with my hubby. I’m telling him how I think the video is cute. My seven-year-old daughter comes behind us.  Her: I don’t think it’s cute. Me: Well, it’s not appropriate for children. Her: So you’re saying it would be cute for me to do that if I was an adult? Me: Her: […]

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“It’s Only a TV Show”: Why I Can’t Watch #Scandal

I jumped on the #Scandal bandwagon pretty late.  Halfway through season two, I started buying season one episodes on Amazon Prime, and my husband and I binged watched. I was particularly fond of the messes Olivia and the Gladiators tackled each week; they were both believable and outrageous, and made for great TV. The back-stories of […]

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I’ve Got That Bipolar Feeling…

One reason I’ve always done well in school is due to the structure. Many graduate students working on a dissertation know this feeling well: as soon as the coursework is done, and time is unstructured by classes and papers, one can find an infinite number of things to do besides writing the dissertation. Now, I […]

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Don’t Read the (Facebook) Comments

I admit — I have a thing about going down foxholes I know I shouldn’t be going down. Just the other day I unleashed a gmail hack to my entire contact list because I just couldn’t help myself from opening an email that I knew, in the back of my head, was spam. I knew […]

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#MomOfTheYear, White Supremacy, and Black Responsibility

Poignant pictures are spilling out of Baltimore. Photos of what we may soon regard as the latest protest in our “Spring” movement show brave bodies in various states of resistance. Some with faces covered, others brazenly identifiable — but all filled with the justifiable rage of living in what feels like a police state where black lives […]

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On black children, black history, and the good life

Cross posted on CocoaMamas Watching Ava DuVernay talk about Selma. Seeing black bodies beaten by white police officers. “That was the past. They should get over it.” You might think that these words came from the mouth of a conservative white male who is tired of talking about slavery, tired of talking about Jim Crow, and […]

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